To Demon in Love and T. I was the one that was going to ask the girl out yesterday. Thanks for showing an interest, but I'm afraid it didn't go so well. She's very shy and withdrawn, which is part of the reason I like her so much. But I've had a terrible time reading her, I don't know what she is thinking at all beneath the surface. Still, I thought all the signs were there, but when I asked her, all I got was, "Can I think about it?"
So now I'm at a loss. There is no answer, even when I talk to her now, not a "yes" or a "no", just the same old ambiguity but without any sense of hope to support it. I feel a little winded right now... T_T
I don't know what to do next, talking to her is a little hard because things feel awkward now.
So now I'm at a loss. There is no answer, even when I talk to her now, not a "yes" or a "no", just the same old ambiguity but without any sense of hope to support it. I feel a little winded right now... T_T
I don't know what to do next, talking to her is a little hard because things feel awkward now.
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"Whatever happened to romanticism? This seems more like the death of it than anything. I'd rather be an AFC than a tool any day..." I agree with you 100% and I too share the same worry of her "Settling" However I w\quickly overcame the feeling after being with her. Just give her time to think and try to have a normal conversation with her, like before you asked her out. The next day after I was turned down by my current GF I talked to her like nothing happened. And now look where we are ^^. Remember, confidence is key, but don't over-do it.by Demon in Love at
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Now that I look at it, the article is a bit polarizing yeah. It's Wikipedia though.
The PUA stuff can be interpreted in several ways -- think of it as knowledge and an edge over some percentage of other guys. You can use that edge both for good and for harm. I don't believe in playing girls (and thus being a tool), but PUA stuff does help you attain the girls whom you actually like. No idea if it's a fault of the times, but true romanticism these days gets you only farther from the girl (unless she's chasing you first.) Being super nice and thoughtful and all that stuff will not win her heart.
So you neither have to be a tool nor an AFC or whatever.by anonymous at -
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I see what that article is trying to say, but it polarizes AFCs (average frustrated chumps) and PUAs (pick up artists).
I'm sorry, but I just can't go for that. Whatever happened to romanticism? This seems more like the death of it than anything. I'd rather be an AFC than a tool any day...by anonymous at
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Shes just not that into you.by anonymous at
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As a guy to a guy, there is usually not a lot of good in 'asking' a girl if you can date her. More conventional is to make a move and gauge her reaction (e.g. brush your hand against hers, pat her on the back for something, hold her hand, etc. etc., doing a little more if she gives positive feedback over time.) There should be no words exchanged here. =)by anonymous at
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Have you fully talked to her? It's always good to have a talk about stuff, so you're not htinking, even if she's shy, if she has something to say when you ask she should answerby T
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I'm terrified of being the guy she "settles for" though, I don't want that for her or me.by anonymous at
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There's still a bit of hope! I turned my current boyfriend down 3 times before i finally agreed because i had to think, don't give up hope :]]by T at
